We knew that the next phase in our lives, after traveling, would be to settle down and start a farm. This is something the four of us have been planning for the last 3 years, and hasn't changed in the slightest. We didn't really know where we wanted to live, and since we're planning on staying (at least mostly) retired, we need a place that has; low taxes, low real estate prices, gorgeous landscape, moderate climate and relaxed homeschool laws.
Once you cross reference all these things, there aren't a ton of places that are left...which is good, because it pointed the way to the Blue Ridge. We fell in love with the area, and found a house we were ready to buy. Pre-civil war farmhouse on the river with 7 acres of woods and a barn. It was AMAZING. It was in our price range.
And...an offer, from someone else, got accepted on the day we were ready to put in an offer.
It was a blow that we're still recovering from a little bit.
But I learned something from this, something that is changing how we look at properties now. I think we loved it TOO much. At first, that seemed like a good thing. But in the end I think it blinded us to a few things. Because we loved it so much, we were making compromises that we didn't want to make. It was a big house. Beautiful, yes...but big. We said we didn't want a big house.
Plus, it was in a larger city then we wanted, and it didn't have a definitive central community feel to it. It felt scattered...it felt impersonal. Too much shopping, too many chain stores and restaurants. We said we wanted a small community, with a personal feel.
It was on a busy road. Granted, there was property and it was on a river...but the house itself was near a busy road that you could hear all day long. We said we wanted to be far enough into the country that you don't hear traffic.
Ideally, you want to love your house, right? But what if you love it so much that you are willing to compromise your ideals? What if you feel tied to it? What if it keeps you from doing other things you want to do? After giving it some serious thought I realized, I don't want something I love SO MUCH that I feel like I can't let it go.
Because life changes, and I want to be able to change with it.
AND, it was stressing us out.
Oh my goodness, haven't we learned anything?
To stay the course.
To travel more.
To know that when we find something it should not make us compromise our values.